affair with married manHave you ever had an affair with a married man?

If so, would you do it again?
Do you regret it?
Do you think it was worth it?

I had a short affair with married man than lasted only few weeks. I have regretted it ever since.
I will never do it again because at the end I was left with heartache. It has been a month since but I still feel cheap, pathetic, guilty and dirty when I think about it.

No I would never do that, nor would I marry someone that has a previous history of infidelity behaviors. I think you need to repent...and then ask for forgiveness and move on. You sound like a good person because you know it was wrong.
i hate women like you. who would want my seconds? find your own man!

Yes, I don't regret it. It has filled a need after my divorce. Would I do it again? Only with this man. It was been hard. Deep down we all want to be number one in some man's life and I can not have that with this man unless he gets divorced. Will he ever? Ya most of us say he never will!

No way. There would be no point in being with a married man. They never leave their wives, and you will always only be 2nd best.
Not only that, but karma is a AV儿劣** and someone will end up with your husband. You have to think about how his wife would feel. My best friend only ever messed with married men, and it was just to make herself feel better. She said she liked the rush it gave her knowing that she could have another woman's man. After I asked her how she felt about being 2nd best to his wife, she hasn't got that "rush" since.
I also love the "it's a long story" line that women give when they're with married men.

There is a difference between an active marriage and a marriage that is waiting for a divorce...If he's not even living with his wife, and is getting a divorce then he is as good as single.
I have but I never knew he was married. He did not have a wedding band, "his" place was actually his friends place, we went on vacations and so on...I was lied to.

Do I regret it? yes even thought I never knew he was married, but i do regret it.

Was it worth it? yes. why? Because now I realize even when you ask a guy if he's single and says yes, it's not necessarily true. It made more vigilant, more cautious.

If I ever knew a man was married, I would NEVER go out with him. Why? because I wouldn't want someone to do that to me. I have been cheated on and it is the WORSE feeling in the world.
well you deserve to feel like that.

I notice how you say you would never do it again because of whta it made you feel like afte, not because you feel guilty because of you AV儿劣AV儿劣* another womens man, thats not why you feel guilty, oly because you got the heartache

i hope he has told his wife, it makes me sick, people like you.
i havent ever done it. and for those who didnt know they were married its not your fault. but if you do know, i think its very disgraceful. im pretty sure everyone knows this is not the right thing to do..religious or not. and of course youll feel guilty. your messing up peoples lives. (with the help of their spouse of course)

and tori, the cheaters and the used should tell. When you screw up, you have to admit it so that you can heal yourself and let the other person heal. when a spouse cheats its not because the other was lacking in anything. and even if they felt like this at first, they will soon realize that there was nothing they could do to stop it. if they married a jerk then the should be told so that they can take the appropriate steps to change it or try to work it out. secrets arent good for anyone!
Yes
I've been on both sides

I've been the "other woman" and I've been the "cheating wife"
Either way it was a moment of weakness...the sex was NOT that great - and the guilt never goes away...therefore sexaffair with married man with YOUR husband is not as good as before either...unless you can get it out of your head!

So it was not worth it - at all!!!!

And please...please...if you're the cheater..or the one being "used" please DO NOT TELL!!! Do you really want to make that wife feel guilty or lacking? Make her feel like there's something she could've done to avoid him having an affair?? NO! Please do not try to transfer your guilt onto someone else who is completely innocent!! (his wife..or your husband)
Honesty is not the way out here..do whatever you need to do - seek counseling, pray or do whatever you do to make yourself feel better, but don't tell!!! ANYone!

Yes I did.
It was about 15 years ago. I was young and dumb. I actually believed him when he told me he didn't love his wife and that he should have never married her.
It really sucked when she found out and came to my work and to my apt to harass me. She was one of those wives who totally blamed the woman but stuck by her man, which I will never understand.

Trust me, lesson learned. I would never do that again!

Yes. When I left my first husband, I came back to my home town. I moved into my own place with my 2 year old son. I met a guy at a bar and we started seeing each other. I didn't find out he was married til about 2 weeks after I met him. By then, I was invested in the relationship. He would come over and we would play cards and he would talk with my son. Once my son was in bed, then we of course did other things. I left to go to my sisters for a week so I could decide whether or not it was right that I was doing this. While I was gone, he cleaned my whole house, stripped, mopped, and waxed my kitchen floor. Bought me some new furniture and told me he loved me on the phone. Dummy me thought he was going to leave his wife. He didn't and went on to find another stupid woman who was willing to do the same thing as I was but she was a little younger, and no kids. I was very upset for a long time after that but I should have expected any better. His wife ended up divorcing him and he has gotten well less attractive as he has gotten older. Don't feel bad, you made a mistake. Move on and learn from it like I did.
Yes, I have had a few affairs with married men.

The first I didn't know he was married. He told me he was divorced, but I believe now that he was married. The affair resulted in the birth of my son, do while I regret the affair, I do not regret my son. He is my world.

The second I knew he was married, so was I at the time. I do not regret the affair, he and I are still friends, though I would never see him again.

The third I didn't know that he was married. I dated him for two years actively and had no clue. Then when he purchased a home, he made the mistake of telling me his wife moved with him. Talk about a shocker! The regrets I have is that he was not a better person, and shows how stupid I was, how blind I was, but the man had my heart and I didn't know how to let go of him. I have since moved on and am still looking....there are so many men out there (women too) that pretend to be single.

Take what happened and learn from it. Did you knowingly enter into an affair with him knowing he was married? If not, then you went in believing otherwise, so no guilt there. Put it away and grow from the experience.


I have never had an affair with a married man. I dont think you should be so hard on yourself because you ended it when you found out right? And now you know you will never do it again. First time shame on him if you didnt know, second time shame on both of you.
This is a hard lesson,but at least you learned it and can feel better about that.
Yes I have, started to have pretty strong feelings for him. Then someone told me he was married and everything changed. I broke it off but he kept cumin after me. Telling me he had feeaffair with married manlins for me ... Made it harder to resist him

Blah Blah Blah.... Yes I would do it again, actually its been going on for a year now. I dont regret it becuz he doesnt! It very worth it, He's very good in bed! Ha Ha Ha

well what did you expect?!?! look what he did to his wife. the women he vowed to respect and honor. and the cheating was also done on his children(if he has any) they are the ones that are affected the most. don't ever do this again...

it will come back to you. it'll come back to you when you least expected and the first person you'll think about is going to be his wife.
I have had plenty of married men try to have affairs with me.

I found out ALL of them that TRIED were sleeping with a lot of other girls at the same time - in other words, they were serial cheaters.....no, I was not 'special'...they did not 'like' me sooooo much that they were willing to cheat on their wives. They were just dogs.

But no, never did it.
so why are you telling everyone?

i really have a problem with you because my father cheated on mother and you can't believe what it did to her. didn't you think about his wife? how did you think it was going to end? i just don't understand people like you...male/female.
No. I have been attracted to 2 married men before. But I kept my distance and kept my mouth shut. I am not trying to pretend I was an angel. The ONLY reason I didn't act on it was because I was very very afraid of Karma. and believe me Karma would come after you!!!

i have never had an affair with a married man. i think it is a disgraceful thing to do but i know that a lot of people do do it and im not blaming them.
No but for those women who have, could you please email me with instructions on how it happened. Everyone says they wouldn't do it, but if you have, then it is possible.
never have had an affair ,i don't want to be a home wrecker and it makes you cheap and pathetic and dirty to boot
Nope, but atleast u ended it and you do have respect for yourself.
And you have learned your lesson.

Good Luck to you.
You will find Mr. Right!!!
Yes; no regrets; I wouldn't do it now because I'm married; it was worth it, I enjoyed it while it lasted. I've had more heartaches when I was dating single available men.
Not with a Married man but with a Married woman, I was married also. I regret it but it was quite enjoyable if I could get over the fact we were both married.
Yes, I have had a few and am having one now. I am married also. I know I am bad but I can't help myself ( guess i'm addicted)
Yes, But I didn't know he was married until a couple months into the relationship. So I felt betrayed and angry. I was young and would not want that again.
I had an affair with a married woman back in the early 90's, only for a month. What a mistake!
I will never do that again.
Nope;Nope;Nope!!!!
Thats good that you feel that way because that is exactly what you are! What a horrible thing to do!
Best if you learned from your experience, and don`t do it again.
You know his wife is reading your emails, right? And she knows you're posting this. Watch out, that chick is crazy.
Nope.
No because my beautiful religion Islam has taught me against this.

I am in no place to judge you, for that is only Allah's (SWT) job. But, feeling cheap, pathetic, guilty...are obvious results. Also, you can't blame people when they call you something like a whore. Look at what you have done.



Insha' Allah, you'll learn from this and Allah (SWT) will guide you to the right path.
Yes i'm dating a married man now. It's a long story.